What makes a great girlfriend?
Contrary to what you might believe, most men are not looking for a
supermodel woman. They are actually
looking for their perfect match. Men
want a woman who is down to earth, sweet and sensitive, someone who they can
spend the rest of their life with. Find
out the top qualities men are secretly looking for in a woman as the
matchmakers of Portland Singles reveal them for you today.
Here are some attractive traits that every man keeps in mind when
deciding if a woman will be the one he settles down with... Read on to find out
if that's you!
1. A Woman With Confidence
Take it straight from the man.
There is absolutely nothing sexier than a woman who is comfortable in
her own skin. If you're always feeling
self-conscious or always asking probing questions like, "Does this
shirt make me look fat?" Or,
"Does this skirt show my cellulite?" Stop right there. Stop asking!
If you're constantly needing him to reassure you that you're beautiful,
then he might start questioning it himself.
2. A Woman Who Is Smart
Acting like a blonde bimbo loses it's 'coolness' after graduating from
high school. What mature men want in a
girlfriend to settle down with is a woman who can stand head to head with him
in the smarts department. They also want
to be able to hold a meaningful and intelligent conversation with her. So, yes, men do want a smart and savvy
woman--To them, intelligence is a major turn on, explains Portland Singles.
3. A Woman Who Isn't Materialistic
Of course he wants to be your knight in shining armor and he wants to
spoil you like the princess you are, but that in no way, shape, or form does
this give you the authority to act like a princess all the time. Allow him to treat you to romantic dinners,
surprise little gifts once in a while, and even weekend getaways, but do it
without demanding it of him. He will be
relieved that he doesn't have to try so hard to please you, which will inspire
him and make him more willing to try for the next occasion--Since he knows he
doesn't have to spend his entire next paycheck just to show you he loves you.
4. A Woman Who Is Spontaneous
One of the first things a relationship needs is spontaneity, explains PortlandSingles. And it's one of the first
things that disappears from most relationships.
You get stuck in your Friday night dinners, Saturday night movies, and
lazy Sundays routines with him. Don't
lose your spontaneity--Men adore a woman who can do things at the drop of a
hat. So if you are the type of woman who
complains about doing things spur of the moment, don't.
5. A Woman With A Laid Back Attitude
What do you think is one of the best things you can do in your
relationship with him? Relax. Yes, you heard that right, relax. When you arrive home from a tough day at the
office and see those dishes stocked up to the cabinets, you know you're about
to lash out at him, but don't do it.
Instead, just let it go this time.
No man likes to be nagged, reminds Portland Singles. And every man likes a woman who can let her
hair down from time to time and let go of little things. This is not to say that should be an every
day occurrence and you need to allow him to get away with keeping your house
like a fraternity house, but you can let it go from time to time without making
a big scene out of it.
6. A Woman Who Is Playful
Men can't get enough of a woman who is able to laugh at their
jokes. They want a woman who isn't
mindless and isn't always so serious about everything. Just like mentioned above, men don't like a woman
who nags them about the dishes, and they want someone who is able to joke about
the dishes too. Men like a woman who is
able to make snappy comments and witty remarks, because they believe those are
the things that keep the spark alive in the relationship, explains Portland
Singles. And it's also said that
laughter is a great aphrodisiac.
7. A Woman Who Is Sensual
As mentioned before, men don't always go for a woman because of her
looks. Well, some men do, and it's
something that motivates them. But for
most of them, it's more about your sexiness and confidence that draws them into
you, explains Portland Singles.
This means try to embrace your femininity. Let go of the sweatpants and faded out
T-shirts, and take an extra few minutes to put yourself together. Now, this shouldn't mean you feel pressured
to hang around your house in lingerie and high heels, like a Victoria's Secret
supermodel, but you should feel comfortable in your own skin. And that can only be done when you feel sexy.
8. A Woman Who Is Honest
If a man cannot trust you, how can he ever see you as his girlfriend or
eventually his wife? Always be open and
honest with him. A little white lie or
sending flirty text messages to a male friend from work can quickly turn into a
full blown fight and eventually turn into a breakup. So don't do it.
9. A Woman Who Is Supportive
As cliche as this might sound, most men want to be the caregivers. But even the strongest of them will fall at
some point or another, and during these times, he wants to know that you'll be
there to support him and stand by his side.
Whether it's changing careers or moving to a new city, show your support
of him in small ways. A quick, "I
love you" text message will take the stress off his morning commute and
listening to him vent out about his stringent boss will show him how supportive
you are. But don't suffocate him,
stresses Portland Singles. The
last thing you want to do is remind him of his mother.
10. A Woman Who Is Independent
Dating a woman who has her own independence is very attractive for men,
explains Portland Singles. But
dating a stage five clinger, definitely is not.
No man wants to be involved with a woman they constantly have to
reassure their love to every five minutes.
So give him his night out with the guys, let him go out of town for the
weekend, and learn to give him his space.
